Bad days. We all have them. Days where you look in the mirror and hate what you see. Days where you feel anxious without knowing why. Days where you just can’t stop crying. Know that that is normal. Everyone has those days. It’s how you deal with them that counts the most. In this post, I’m going to share my top tips to help you deal with your bad days. Hopefully there’s something for everyone here 🙂
1) comfy clothes
First things first, whether it’s body image/ bloating/ cramps that you’re struggling with or not – comfy clothes are always my go-to. Don’t force yourself to wear those jeans that squeeze your tummy and make you feel insecure if you’re already feeling a bit sh*t. Trackies and a hoodie (in winter) or a loose breezy dress (in summer) are my favourite options.
2) Good food
= good mood. Well, not quite, but it does help. If you’re struggling with disordered eating, then this is especially important. When I’m mentally not feeling too great, my appetite often goes. This can make fuelling extra hard – but I’m now in a place where I know I need to eat regardless. Start the day off with a delicious and nutritious (or not – if you need comfort food, go for it) breakfast that will fill your body with loving vibes. Don’t add salt to a wound by not eating and feeling faint/ dizzy/ irritable etc.
3) Acknowledge that this will pass
Whether the bad day ends up just being that – a bad day – or whether it progresses into a week, acknowledge that it WILL pass. Feel what you’re feeling (ignoring it will only exacerbate it), but remember it will go just as suddenly as it came. Sometimes it really does feel like it won’t – but it will. There is always a light at the end of that tunnel, and it is NOT a bottomless sinkhole. Bear that in mind whilst you deal with whatever it is that’s making you feel low.
This will probably seem like such a cliché one, but yoga has honestly helped me so much in my journey. It unites the physical with the mental, the body with the mind. Practising yoga daily has helped me to tune into how I’m feeling both mentally and physically, as well as learn to cope with the difficult times. My personal favourite online instructors are Yoga with Adriene, Cat Meffan Yoga and Alo Yoga. Put on a restorative flow video and channel that self love.
5) have a tea
I’m not sure what it is about tea (herbal especially), but it just feels so soothing. The act of making it feels like an act of self care, and drinking it is so therapeutic. I particularly enjoy anything with chamomile, cinnamon, peppermint, lavender or fennel. Just find what works for you and treat yourself.
6) Talk to someone
There’s honestly nothing worse than holing yourself up and keeping these thoughts to yourself. Speak to someone about how you’re feeling. Offload on them just as you’d let them offload on you. No, you’re not a burden for having a bad day. I’m always happy to support my friends because I’d want them to support me when I’m struggling. So get out of your head and talk to a close friend or family member. At the very least, it will be a welcome distraction from your thoughts.
I find that the act of writing thoughts down can be so healing in and of itself. Journalling enables you to acknowledge your pain, but it also allows you to move in. Rather than letting it fester, you’re directly addressing the issue and this is the first step in dealing with it. You don’t need to write an essay about it, a line will suffice. But I really do find it helps me when I’m feeling especially low or anxious.
A pet is my favourite choice (Coral, I’m looking at you). But a human will do. Just make sure they are a good hugger!
Anyway, whether you’re struggling right now or are reading for future benefit, I really do hope that you’ve found this helpful. You are worthier of love than you will ever know.